Roughly 35.5 million Americans move each year. Whew! That’s a lot of packing tape! Moving can be an exciting adventure, but it can also be overwhelming—especially when children are involved.
This time last year my family moved from Mississippi to Tennessee. Reflecting on these last twelve months, we have all settled into a new routine and adjusted well. And although I’m grateful for this outcome and proud of our decision, moving was a stressful time for the family.
Moving our children to a different area seemed terrifying at the time. I worried continuously about my kids and the unknowns related to this transition. But one year later, I am grateful to say we made it through to the other side and couldn’t be happier!
If you have a big move coming up, here are a few tips to help your children:
- Visit before moving
When it comes to relocating, children have a lot of anxiety surrounding the unknown. If possible, take the kids for a visit before you move. A weekend trip to explore the new area can reduce anxiety and help children get excited about what’s to come. Show them neighborhoods, schools, churches, parks, and restaurants in the new area. If unable to visit before moving, research the new location alongside your kids. Spend time together discussing new opportunities and possibilities for them (rather than just you or your spouse).
- Communication is Key
One of the most important ways to prepare children for a big move is to talk about it. Welcome questions, and answer them openly and honestly. It can be a challenge to remain positive in the midst of stress, however children need us to help them see the good that can come from moving. Ask how you can make the transition better for them, as well as validate any concerns they have. Let them know they can come to you at any time with questions or concerns.
- Give adjustment time
Expect children to react emotionally. It’s common for each child to respond differently. When we told our children about our upcoming move, we witnessed three very different responses. One was excited, one shut down, and one had a complete meltdown (as in—cried for an entire week)! All three needed time and space to process the news in their own way. It’s important to remember, children will go through a grieving process. They are saying goodbye to what they’ve known. Allow them time to express their sadness. Help them say goodbye—throw a going-away party, take them to their favorite places before moving, and allow them to express what they will miss the most.
- Plan for some fun
After arriving at your new home, the pressure is on to get everything in its place. Boxes are everywhere, everyone is exhausted, and life feels chaotic! You may feel the need to get unpacked and settled into a new routine as soon as possible. But remember to walk away from the chaos regularly and take your kids out for some fun. Let them pick an activity, take them to the library, find the best ice cream store, or just go exploring.
- Get kids plugged in as soon as possible
Reach out to local age group pastors and schools for information on how to get your children plugged in. Also introduce yourself to neighbors. After we moved, a local resident provided us with information about sports, student groups, summer camps, and other events in the area.
- Pray
Set aside time to pray together before and after the move. Pray for new friendships to come quickly, the first day at a new school, fresh opportunities, and peace for the unknown. Thank the Lord for past memories, and ask Him to bless your family with new celebrations.