January is a time when many individuals desire to make changes of one kind or another. And it’s great when life modifications are self-prompted and accomplished over the weeks following.
Unfortunately, for some, this month is also known for its cold sting of unwelcomed surprise job losses and hiring freezes. In fact, according to Forbes.com, “December and January are dangerous months for job holders because that’s when annual budgets flip over at many companies.”
So, when we encounter friends or family members who have suddenly hit a snag in their career paths, how can we best encourage them through the tough times? After all, Scripture reminds us in Philippians 2:3-4 to “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
We want to help, but how?
3 Points for Pushing Through Times of Pain
- Give Encouragement
Kind words and a listening ear are easy expressions of love that go a long way when someone is hurting emotionally. We don’t even need to be professional counselors to have great words of comfort and encouragement. Simply acknowledging the hurt: “I’m so sorry you’re having to face this struggle right now,” and listening to their story is helpful in showing your friend how much you truly care.
- Give Space
When someone loses a significant part of themselves, such as loss of employment, they need friends to talk to, but they also need space to sort things out in their own thinking. Many times, joblessness makes one feel embarrassed about their new “status” in society. So, giving them a little time (between your words of encouragement) to work through their heartbreak is a special gift you can give.
- Give Reminders
Nothing is better for an unemployed person than hearing back from a friend after having some time to “lick their wounds.” Just as time and space are great remedies for nursing hurt feelings, reminders that friends are still thinking about and caring for them is another huge support in their healing process. So, after your initial show of concern, touch base again two to three weeks later with a short email, text, or phone call to see how they’re doing and hear about their latest job pursuits.