I’m not really one for making resolutions, but I do believe there’s good that comes from setting goals for improvement. Are there areas in your life you’d like to move past or develop for the better in your present circumstances?
Me, I tend to dwell on former frustrations. I’ll see someone or something that reminds me of a tangled, confusing time in my life, and honestly, it’s hard to move on to a different mindset. Although I desire to sweep away the destructive web of remembrances, I become more entwined in them.
But I’ve found something that works better than just wishing the bad to blow away. Change happens best when I replace the “bad” with something good. I didn’t come up with this plan; it’s actually a biblical concept.
The apostle Paul reminds us in Philippians 4:8 of this worthy approach to life where he writes, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” [emphasis added].
How does this happen in a practical sense? Here are a few examples:
- Rather than complaining about the cold rain that fell all day long—which you have no control over anyway—what could you do indoors that would benefit yourself or others? Clean out some cramped closets? Create a donation pile to help someone less fortunate? Make some baked goodies and give half to a neighbor who needs a smile?
- Instead of dwelling on the fact that your best friend moved to the opposite side of the country last year, consider who you could meet up with for coffee next week in an effort to make a new friend. Or look for ways to meet new people through community or church groups in your area. Many have Bible studies, recreational activities, or hobby groups that can be fun and rewarding.
- Rather than dreading that awkward conversation with your work supervisor later this week, what are some positive aspects about your job—things that have been truly helpful—that you could thank your boss for providing? Gratitude over griping always changes our outlook on life!
When we’re proactive in making positive changes in our mindset, the result is a natural switch in our attitude toward life. It’s like moving our car’s gear shift into drive mode. We’re no longer looking backward—possibly on experiences that damper our vision and hopes for the future. Rather, we can move forward with anticipation of new and fresh encounters that God can use to grow us beyond our present circumstances.
Remember to “think about such things,” and you’ll likely be much happier in the long run.